Has Your Role as a Parent Affected Your View of Gay Marriage?

This week, President Obama said his historic decision to personally affirm the right of same-sex couples to marry was motivated by his children. Have your children affected your views?

As parents, do we teach, or are we taught?

This week President Obama made a remarkable televised declaration of personal support for same-sex marriage—the first President of the United States to ever do so.

The motivations for his declaration during a contentious election year are an issue of hot debate, but the President explained his decision to publicly affirm his support—reversing his position on the issue—as one driven not so much by his role as a chief executive and candidate, but as a parent. 

He credits how his kids regard the same-sex parents of their friends and peers as something that fundamentally altered his own view.

As parents, we are taught that we hold the moral compass for our children; they are meant to follow our lead.

Speaking for myself, as a relatively new parent, I have already found that my young children have reshaped my thinking in many ways, on issues large and small.

But how far does this, or should this go? Are there some issues that you view as non-negotiable in your family?

This week, we’d like to hear from you. Has your role as a parent influenced or changed your thinking about the issue of same-sex marriage?



Check back next week for Parent Chat when we will discuss how local parents handle concerns they may have about firearms kept in the homes of their children’s friends. If you have a viewpoint or topic idea that you would like to contribute to an upcoming post, please directly email kirsten.e.branch@gmail.com.

Sam Clemens May 11, 2012 at 05:02 PM
Just a political move, a wedge issue to divert attention from the real issues. All he said is that he personally is in favor of gay marriage. Personally speaking, I believe in strong families. If this legitimizes more strong families...that's great. But this speaks volumes about this President's priorities. The ship is on fire, and the President is rearraging the deck chairs. Such a joker.
Terry Parris Jr. May 11, 2012 at 05:20 PM
What does "strong families" mean? Are you implying that gay marriage, or same-sex couples can't be strong families?
Sam Clemens May 11, 2012 at 05:33 PM
The opposite Terry, your bias is showing. You are not an unbiased editor. Pretty soon I expect u will block me for not being PC. Same as the blogger who was fired for questioning "black studies" (My son and sister in law are both gay).
Terry Parris Jr. May 11, 2012 at 05:39 PM
Sam: Relax. Questioning you isn't a bias. It's a question. And do you really expect me to block you for not being PC? Considering all of the conversations we've had about schools? C'mon. But, back to my question, what does "strong families" mean?
Terry Parris Jr. May 11, 2012 at 08:03 PM
Sam: My comment also wasn't meant to be accusatory. As I reread it, I can see how you would think that. That was definitely not my intention. I just like to have solid discussions on this board and you have always been a solid participant. Thanks!
Lynda Manstrom May 11, 2012 at 09:09 PM
Considering the anti-gay bias of most swing states, which Obama will need to win, I hardly consider this an opportunity to gain political advantage.
Sam Clemens May 11, 2012 at 09:10 PM
I think loving families are in short supply. Gay people are people. They have loving & screwed up relationships just like straight people. To me this is just so plain it's biting to talk about. I do think it's more than sad that we deny a class of people the same rights to this essential aspect of life. And worse to have gay people feel coerced into living a lie. On the other hand Icrespect other points of view on this subject. I'm not sure how a thoughtful person would respond to my point of view. And sorry for lashing out at you. I'm sensitive to name calling and "yelling" as I feel it hurts the public discourse of thoughtful people.
Terry Parris Jr. May 11, 2012 at 09:26 PM
No apologies necessary. I should have chosen my words more tactfully, and my intentions weren't in anyway meant to come off as "yelling." That's not what I'm about... unless I'm watching my beloved Detroit Red Wings lose.
Terry Parris Jr. May 11, 2012 at 10:36 PM
I'm a Wayne State grad, from Detroit. Grew up in the metro Detroit area. Small world, Sam!
Harry Jenkins May 11, 2012 at 11:30 PM
Are your son or sister in law parents?
RWCook May 12, 2012 at 04:10 PM
No, he is trying to shore up his base that is bailing on him. It is not anti-gay for the 30 or so states that do not want a small minority to redefine a relationship that has existed for 1000's of years.
Zach Miletich May 12, 2012 at 09:24 PM
Too true! He should probably beat up gay people in public like his opponent would.
Brash Brazen May 14, 2012 at 06:44 PM
The ship maybe on fire,but it's the Republicans who are obstructing our access to the hoses & water needed to douse the flames !
Brash Brazen May 14, 2012 at 07:04 PM
God fixation won't fix our nation ! The Republican Party financed by rich & powerful conservatives has been taken hostage by the tea party & the divinely delusional ! In an age where most civil rights are taken for granted these self-righteous simpletons insist on trying to impose their bible based bigotry on an increasingly secular nation ! Precedent was set when the federal government insisted that Utah outlaw poligamy in their state constitution (still popular amongst Mormons at the time) before they could become a state in 1896. Issues of civil rights should never be decided in the privacy of a voting booth. If this were the case in some states inter-racial marriage would still be illegal & we'd have segregated schools ! One more vote for either side shouldn't & won't ever decide this issue to anyones satisfaction,nor should it. Until these crusaders abandon there efforts to turn America into a theocracy of Christian faith,just remember that only their piosity exceeds their stupidity !
Sam Clemens May 14, 2012 at 07:40 PM
Way more than half of the states approved the ban on gay marriage. Even the bluest of blue (California). Although we see that number of people in favor of the ban may be shrinking. I don't think the issue is not what the majority wants, but rather constitutional protections of a minorities equal rights vs the rights of the majority to define marriage consistent with how it has been defined for all human existance; and by the vast majority of peoples around the world. I'm in favor of gay marriage, and I believe abortion is murder. But these are very hard questions, and I don't feel comfortable imposing my views on others. I also don't think it is helpful for our democracy to use language like: self-righteous simpletons divinely delusional impose their bible based bigotry I don't think these words apply to most people that are against gay marriage, but they will certainly do a good job of creating a disfunctional political discourse. I hope that I don't cross that line myself when I refer to Teacher Union Thugs, and abortion as murder. Perhaps I do...:-(
Sam Clemens May 14, 2012 at 07:47 PM
But actually...the teacher's union bosses do frequently operate by intimidation (my definition of thug), and killing a fetus is "murder in a way", to my way of thinking. And some anti gay marriage people are self-righteous simpletons, divinely delusional and impose their bible based bigotry on others. But not all those opposed to Gay marriage are.
Brash Brazen May 15, 2012 at 01:51 AM
You might be intimidated by teamster,steelworker or longshore union bosses,but teacher union bosses as thugs ? Do they rap teachers on their knuckles with a ruler when they get out of line ? You may feel that abortion is murder,but your reasoning is what's killing me ! LMFAO !
Sam Clemens May 15, 2012 at 02:13 AM
You speak nonsensically Brash if unthink that teachers union doesn't intimidate. And ur point on abortion makes even less sense. Sometimes I wish " the vote" was limited to thoughtful people in some way.
Frank Mockery May 16, 2012 at 06:08 PM
Under California law "mentally incompetent" citizens can be prohibited from voting. It's too bad that this doesn't extend to those clueless individuals who can't tell the difference between right-wing faith based rhetoric & the truth. America is an ever increasingly secular nation & no law should ever be based upon one's interpretation of their chosen holy book. WWJD ? Most Americans don't give a damn !
Sam Clemens May 17, 2012 at 03:09 PM
I can see both sides of a debate over an institution as long lived and universal as marriage vs civil rights. On Fox News I heard a pundit say "perhaps a person can be in agreement with the civil right to gay marriage; but personally opposed to it" Is that common ground most can agree on. Real democratic perspective; not catering to the D & R leadership
Sam Clemens May 17, 2012 at 03:11 PM
By the way, I don't think stats on faith in America back up the increasingly secular point. I think stats say the opposite. (not sure)
Sandee Wiedemann May 17, 2012 at 05:08 PM
Of course, I value the kids' opinions, but I follow God's Word!


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