A Danville Woman's Unrelenting Desire to be a Mother Again

Carmen Pack lost her two children to a drunk driver in 2003. At age 44, she wanted to be a mother again and with help from fertility doctors she now has a daughter. On Sunday, the Pack's and hundreds of other families will celebrate in San Ramon.

About a thousand families will be at Little Hills Ranch in San Ramon on Sunday to celebrate what many of us too often take for granted — life.

The event, called 'Family Day,' is being sponsored by the Reproductive Science Center of the Bay Area. The RSC is a leader in fertility treatment, helping parents bring children into their lives.

One Danville family that will be in attendance Sunday understands how precious life can be and what it's like to live through a parents worse nightmare.

In October 2003, Carmen Pack of Danville was taking a walk with her children Alana, 7, and Troy, 10, when a drunk driver swerved across the road. Alana and Troy were hit and killed. The immense pain, trauma and loss she endured was devastating, she said.

What she wanted more than anything was to be a mom.

“I was put on this earth to be a mother, and I had a lot missing after my children were taken from me,” Carmen explains. “I knew I couldn't give up until I was a mother again.”

At age 44, her low ovarian reserve wouldn’t allow for a pregnancy. An egg donor would be necessary. Her niece, Pamela, offered to help Carmen and become her egg donor. Eggs retrieved from Pamela were then fertilized with Carmen’s husband’s sperm.

After a transfer of two embryos, Carmen was the hopeful mother-to-be for two twin boys. But the drunk driver trial proved too stressful for her body to endure, and she lost both boys nearing her sixth month of pregnancy.

Not being discouraged, Carmen tried again. This time there was no miscarriage and Carmen became the mother of a baby girl named Noelle, who is now six years old.

Their physician, Dr. Louis Weckstein of Reproductive Science Center, took a personal interest in working with Carmen and Bob.

“After the devastation they had been through, I wanted to give them hope,” Dr. Weckstein explains. “I told her we wouldn’t stop until we had succeeded.”

--Information for this article was provided by Gina Kremer.


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ElectraDaddy August 17, 2012 at 10:48 PM
I know Carmen and have met her and her daughter through my children's preschool. I also remember reading the news reports about the tragic accident that claimed the life of her two older children. However, I never connected her to that tragedy until I read this story. She is an absolutely delightful woman and I'm so glad that she was able to achieve her dreams of being a mother again. My family sends along its warmest and best wishes to the Pack family.
Tom August 17, 2012 at 11:12 PM
I will never forget that tragic day, when I see the plaques at Sycamore School it just all comes right back to me. I am so happy she and her husband had the love to endure this. Nothing but best wishes to them.
Life August 18, 2012 at 02:26 AM
Leave Mac alone. All he's doing is saying that this could be illegal if Romney is elected. He's trying to save more lives here. This wonderful miracle won't happen anymore if they're elected. So grow up and realize the bigger picture.
marlynn August 27, 2012 at 04:31 AM
I feel terrible for her loss but won't this little girl feel sad that her mother gave her up to be raised by her grand-aunt? and won't it screw up all the kinship titling I mean she is going to be raised as if her Mom was her cousin and her grand-aunt was her Mom. If she has any brothers and sisters they will act like they are just 1st cousin's 1x removed. Its just cumbersom. Clearly her father is still her father but it's like he cheated on his wife with his step neice and he is raising the kid with his wife. Its just kind of a bit much but as long as the neice gets named on the certificate as the mother and they got the transfer of custody handled in court like a normal step parent adoption then the kid was treated fairly under kinda tragic circumstances - no matter how wanted the child was by the grand-aunt that won't make being given up and rejected by the mother any easier to swallow. Being "given away" as a gift can't feel too good.
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